Long-form, research-backed writing on the problems our apps are built for: obsessive attachment, compulsive checking, food noise, and the slow theft of your attention. Written for the person searching at 2am, not for a search engine.
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The hub for everything we've written about obsessive attachment: what limerence actually is, why no contact hurts this much, and the steps that reliably work when willpower doesn't.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
You've tried logic, distraction and telling yourself to grow up. None of it works, because rumination isn't a reasoning problem. Here's what it actually is.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
Most people abandon no contact somewhere around day three — right at the point it's starting to work. Here's what's happening, week by week.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
You know the exact number of story views. You've noticed who's suddenly liking their posts. Here's why checking is compulsive, and how to make it stop.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
"But what if this is real?" is the question underneath all the others. Here's how craving and love genuinely differ, without dismissing what you feel.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
You're not being dramatic. Rejection recruits pain and stress systems that produce real symptoms — and knowing that changes how you treat it.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
"How long until this stops?" deserves a real answer rather than time heals everything. Here's what the research suggests and what changes the number.
Limerence & Relationship Recovery
You've analysed every message for evidence. The question is unanswerable by design — and needing the answer is the thing keeping you stuck.
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The hub for everything we've written about food noise and the binge cycle: why the chatter never stops, what's really happening in the loop, and the steps that hold up when willpower doesn't.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
Planning dinner during breakfast. Doing sums on what you've eaten. A second conversation running under every conversation. That's food noise, and it has a mechanism.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
You held it together through breakfast, lunch and the whole afternoon. Then 9pm arrived and you weren't really there any more. There's a reason it's always that hour.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
You're standing in the kitchen reading this on your phone. Skip the theory: here's what to do with the next ten minutes, and what to do if you're already mid-binge.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
It looks like discipline followed by collapse. It's actually one mechanism with two halves, and the disciplined half is what causes the other one.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
The eating is one problem. The hiding is another, and it's often the heavier one. Here's why shame is the engine rather than the brake.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
Nobody wants a vague answer to this one. Here's what the treatment research suggests about timelines, and what the first weeks and months usually feel like.
Food Noise & Binge Eating Recovery
"Everyone overeats sometimes" is the sentence that keeps people out of treatment for a decade. Here's what actually distinguishes the two.